Be Who You Are

Not everyone is capable. You can’t expect every single person to be able to do everything in some particular way. Along those same lines, you can’t expect everyone to be able to love.

Some people just aren’t built in that way. Loving someone requires a million things. It isn’t just the words that matter.

It’s the actions. And for some people, it is hard.

It’s not like they don’t know they are wrong. It’s just that they can’t help being the way they are.

Sometimes, I feel people shuold be allowed to be who they are, rather than who they are supposed to be.

Everyone plays a character. Everyone is a different person for different people. One single person can be viewed in a hundred different ways by hundred different people. And it is alright.

What’s not fine is, that one person shouldn’t have to try to be someone just so someone can love him/her. That’s just not ‘okay’.

Not that you can’t do it or it is not possible, but just the fact that there will come a day when that act will come to an end. There will be a moment of breakdown and then, if it is all an act, everything will fall apart.

Unless someone can’t accept you for the way you are, it is all useless.

No one should have to make compromises. No one should have to live with something they aren’t comfortable with. No one should have a life where one continuously keeps contemplating and thinking about the decision they made in the past.

i don’t want you to do that. I don’t want you to hold my hand, choose me over everyone else, and then, spend the rest of your life thinking… “What If! I had said no”.

I don’t want that. I don’t need you to be what I am.

I have been the way I am for all my life. I don’t want you to become a part of me. It just isn’t worth it.

P.S. As much as I say I am fine without you, I’ll never be happy. But then, it shouldn’t worry you!

Categories: love

19 replies

  1. Very true words indeed. It is a logic that should be applied universally. Discrimination is not a dirty word. Look it up in the dictionary. It is another of many words which has been hijacked and applied as a misnomer writ large. In a truly FREE society people ARE free; free to like or dislike whatever or whomever they please. It is all well and good that there are laws to prohibit the ACT of discrimination; in terms of housing; in terms of employment; in terms of a host of other things. There is, however, NO law which may mandate under penalty of some state sponsored sanction that a thing or individual MUST be liked. We have descended into a world of thin-skinned babies. These are the people most incapable of love. And you know what? That is OK. Like or love what you want, right? Isn’t that what we are told by the warriors of the sacred woke? They are the biggest hypocrites on the planet.


  2. Interesting article. I too believe you can only be who you are at the time and not everyone will like or love you. That said I believe love is a choice you make. Real love to me is about choosing to be kind, care for others and learn to accept and love yourself just as you are at this present time. I don’t believe love is about feelings as feelings can deceive us. Real love I think is caring even when others dont. It’s never easy to really love. At least that’s what I’ve found.


  3. Thanks … maybe this will encourage… this is an extract from my Christian Book IN HIS IMAGE

    Can one live in His image in today’s world?
    When one reflects upon the different tragic events the world faces today, one can easily say that there is no hope for a better society. It is very painful as a Christian to see how certain values are being compromised or even destroyed. It is very painful to hear and witness to human suffering in the world, in this so called ‘modern’ world. A world where man has succeeded to go to space, has discovered technology and has made the world look more developed to how it looked 50 years ago. Yet, our next-door neighbour has hardly anything to eat, is living in inhumane accommodation, children are abandoned and left dying of malnutrition, lacking proper healthcare and a rightful education. Unborn babies are deliberately being killed, without giving them a chance to smile at their ‘mum’ to be! The world is proud of the modern achievements, but in the heart of man darkness is reigning. Where darkness reigns, neighbours do not speak to one another, families hardly meet together or communicate in a healthy way.
    This is the world experimenting with a new discovery: that of living in a society without God, a society that does not reflect His image. Whenever human beings allow the ‘values’ of man and not of God to take over their lives, children, families, those who are the smallest and the weakest in society will suffer. Such consequences are easily seen in the world: wars, crimes, money laundering, trafficking of people and so on. This is the consequence of accepting darkness to take over the world.
    So, can one live in His image in today’s world? Can one really live his spiritual life in the likeness of God, that is, to have a personal relationship with Him, that would empower the person to really love his neighbour through the love of God? Can man and woman really live in His image, living in harmony together, to raise up a family even in the midst of a challenging society? And can man and woman really live in His image, when today’s society is referring to gender as neutral, without referring to man or woman, as if they did not exist, or had never been created as such? How can people throughout the world really live in His image in such circumstances?
    The answer to all this is yes, man can live in the image of God in today’s world. We are to be encouraged, knowing that man and woman were created for this special relationship with God. There is only one solution for man to live life in the image of God, which is to be a people of God, to live through His grace, the grace that wraps a person in the personal love of the Father. As Father Carl Agius explains: ‘You were created to be a living image of the glory of God’, that is possible through the healing on any level that takes place through God’s grace within us.

    IN HIS IMAGE is available from:


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